First Time Mom's Guide: Save or Splurge Registry Items (Part 2)

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The moment you find out that you are expecting your first child it's like you turn into a shopping maniac. Searching high and low for every single item you think you’ll need for the 1st year of life with this tiny little human. I know with our first I registered for everything under the sun from cribs to walkers (because a 3 month old totally knows how to use a walker at only a few weeks old). Thinking back and talking to new moms I realized that if you put a little strategy behind your registry items you can get exactly what you need for when you need it. 

Here’s the deal… instead of making the mistake most people make by registering for everything you will need the first year, just focus on registering for good quality items and only essentials. I know you think I'm crazy but bear with me so I can explain the why behind this madness! You may think its a little too much to put big ticket items on your registry, but if you have 3-4 of those on your registry and just the essentials like diapers, wipes, blankets, etc, people will be more than happy to put money towards those big items because they know you need them! So don't go crazy on gear you won't need for a few months. Being three kids deep, I’ve learned that investing in quality over quantity has really been a huge benefit when you have kids. Try to think long term. Do you plan on using these items alot? Are you planning to have more kids? If the answer is yes to both those questions then PLEASE invest in good quality registry items. 

So here is my list of what you should save on and what you should splurge on.

SAVE: CRIB/ BASSINET

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My advice would be to search for a secondhand crib/bassinet. Most cribs are only used for 2-3 years and are kept in pretty good condition and bassinets are used for even less time. I just recently bought a crib for $50 in excellent condition that is normally $300 and got an awesome bassinet from a friend for FREE!  So search those Facebook sites and you will be bound to find the perfect one! 

SPLURGE: MATTRESS 

I read an article a few months ago when searching for a mattress and it strongly suggested NEVER getting secondhand crib mattresses which I would have to agree with. With Winslow I never did any research regarding mattresses I just assumed that any mattress would work. When looking for a good quality mattress always look at the reviews and find one that is FIRM and SAFE for baby. I’m a huge advocate for breathable mattresses. When Kinley began sleeping in her own crib and rolling over at such a young age I was concerned that she wouldn’t be able to breathe if her face got stuck from rolling over. I ended up doing alot of research and saw so many reviews of the Newton Crib Mattress and was sold! The first night in her crib I slept like the baby knowing that if anything where to happen, she could breath. 

Here are my top Mattresses:

  1. Newton
  2. Nook Sleep System
  3. Naturpedic

SAVE: PUMP

Thank the breastfeeding gods that pumps are now covered through insurance! This used to be a pretty big ticket item. You will definitely want to get a pump so that you can store up a supply for a rainy day or if you just need to get your nails done and leave the baby at home! 

FYI... If you don't know yet there is a breast pump coming on the market within the next few months that is completely hands free and wireless. The Willow Pump allows you to wear the pump in your bra and isn't hooked up to anything! I really cant wait for this! Stay on the lookout, but be warned if you decide to purchase this one you will have to pay out of pocket a pretty large chunk of change. 

SPLURGE: STROLLER 

Okay so this one is one of my pet peeves recently. I don’t know why but I get super frustrated with Moms who buy strollers that aren’t going to last them past a year. I mean think about it, that stroller gets toted around, thrown around and beat up on all day long. Wouldn’t it make sense to invest in a good quality one!  Also if you think about it, the majority of well made strollers have great warranties on them so if anything does break they are pretty good at sending replacements. My favorite brand of course would have to be Uppa Baby. It has the ability to convert to tandem which again is another benefit and something to think about if you plan on having more kids. I've taken mine on planes, cars, park, beach and on all sorts of terrain and it is still in pristine condition! 

Here are my top Strollers:

  1. BOB
  2. Mutsy
  3. Uppa Baby
  4. Baby Zen (GREAT FOR TRAVEL)

SAVE: CLOTHES

Having just given birth to my third baby girl I can say that I'm so glad I never bought expensive brands for her to wear in the early months. Target and the Old Navy Clearance section will do just fine. They grow so fast and sometimes spit up on whatever they are wearing that you may get 2-4 uses out of an outfit before it's either ruined or they don't fit it any longer. So don't waste too much money on outfits, to be honest, for the last 2 months Aubrey has been in a diaper the majority of the time haha!

SPLURGE: CAR SEAT

As a Mom you should never ever sacrifice the safety of your child. I don't think any Mom intentionaly would put her child in danger, but I also think that car seat safety is a huge deal and should be something that is not taken likely. All car seats must go through rigorous testing to be allowed on market. I think purchasing a car seat is more about preference when looking at what brand to buy rather than which car seat brand is safer. 

SAVE: SWINGS & BOUNCERS

Like I've said before, Baby is only going to get a few uses out of most of the items you purchase. It is best to save on the stuff that they will only need for a short time, rather than spending a ton. Swings and Bouncers I have found are one of the items you can definitely save on. Again, I'm huge on buying certain items secondhand because it saves you so much money! This is one of those items that if you can find secondhand you will be golden! Here are some of my favorite swings and bouncers! 

1. 4 Moms
2. Skip Hop
3. Fisher Price
 

*Tip: Go for the smaller swings so that they don't take up a lot of room in your house and are easy to move. Baby will already be taking up room with his stuff, you don't want anymore clutter than needed. 

 

SPLURGE: BABY WEARING- WRAPS, SLINGS & CARRIERS

Just the other day I bought a cheap ring sling because I wanted to test out if Aubrey would like being in one. Even though I bought it with the intention of not using it for a long period of time, I realized that having a good quality baby carrier is a must if thats something you want to do. The one I bought was horrible and the fabric began tearing only a few minutes of wearing it and adjusting the carrier. Here are some favorite brands and the most bought items among Moms (and for good reason, they last forever).

1. Ergo
2. Baby Bjorn
3. Solly Wrap
4. Wild Bird Ring Sling

 

I hope this helps to give a little bit of direction if you are a new mom searching for just the right items. It can be overwhelming when you look at everything that is on the market. My advice would be do your research and look at the reviews of those products before buying. 

I would also love to hear what items you SAVED on and what you SPLURGED on! 

xo
Terah B.


What I Can't Go Without, Baby #3

Here I am, getting ready to add Baby #3 into the mix. I can’t believe that soon I'll have no choice but to buy a mini-van because thats what happens when you have more than two kids, right? To be honest, I have only recently been able to make enough brain space to think about our third addition within the past few weeks. I mean, I feel like I just had a newborn, now Im getting ready to dive back in. When I was thinking about all the things I could possibly need, this list became a lot smaller and realistic than with my first daughter. 

So here is what I cannot do without the third time around:

1. Wonder Weeks App

I am so glad that I found this app, I’m just bummed that this didn’t exist with my oldest 5 years ago! If you are a new mom, or like me and you waited to have another baby 4 years after your first there are alot of things you either don’t know or tend to forget.

This app was a life saver for me! There were times when Kinley would be fussy for no reason and I would go and check the app, view what week in her development she was and sure enough the majority of the time she was just going through what they refer to as a “fussy stage” or going through a developmental stage. This made those fussy weeks alot less stressful just by being able to see what was happening and the best part was it showed you just how long it should last! YES, there was an end in sight!! 

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2. Dock-a-tot

Yes I know, everyone talks about the Dock-a-tot including me, but last time with Kinley I never used it and I definitely regretted it. This go around I'm not taking any chances! I want my newborn to sleep (not to mention I would like to have a good nights sleep) and this is the perfect solution!

3. A Drink!

I’ll just leave this one right here.. .

4. Nursing Tank (with built in bra) 

There is nothing more annoying than having to unhook a nursing tank and a nursing bra when you are out an about. For me nursing in public never looked glamorous like it does for others just sitting there smiling while there little one is under a nursing cover being super still and cooperative. Nursing anywhere especially in the summer makes me sweaty and irritable. If I’ve found one way to keep myself from stressing about it thats by finding a good nursing tank with a  bra inside. 

5. Nuroo Baby Swaddle

I never realized just how magical a wrapped swaddle was until I first used one with my second daughter. I always thought they were just gimmick items, but when I used one for the first time I was so annoyed I had never used one before. Until that time I just used a traditional swaddle blanket, but was always so frustrated because those little ninja hands would always find themselves outside of what I thought was a pretty impressive swaddle. 

I know recently there has been more attention and some slight controversy regarding swaddling and parents not wrapping babies correctly which can cause a lot of harm. All that to say, I think this product is the answer to all parents fears and concerns. Nurroo Baby is the only swaddle blanket that has two size options in one swaddle! As your little one grows, you can adjust how the swaddle is used and fits them. 

Please do yourself a favor, especially in the beginning months when baby arrives, get this product! You will be amazed at how much better baby sleeps. 

6. Ubbi Diaper Pail

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When I had my second daughter I remember searching high and low for ways to ensure that my diaper trash can wouldn’t stink up my entire house! One day I stumbled upon Ubbi and let me tell you it changed our whole world! The best part about this diaper can is that its stainless steel and uses a NORMAL TRASH BAG! As a parent the last thing you need to be doing is running around town trying to find trash refills, this was so easy it just made sense. Because it is stainless steel it also hides the smell of dirty diapers very well. The only time you smell anything is when you open the lid, but thats nothing compared to the constant diaper stink some cans let off. Another great thing they just came out with this year is the cutest designs on the outside of their cans that will fit in with any decor. 

 

7. HELP! 

If there is one thing you definitely need when you have a newborn is HELP and SUPPORT! Whether this is your 1st, 2nd or 3rd there is nothing that makes the few first months a little bit easier than having help! You don't have to hire someone in order to help you and if you don't have family around to help I have found that other Mom's are more than willing to help out. We all know how crazy life can get with a new baby! I had my second baby thousands of miles away from my family and having just moved to a new area where I knew no one. The few Moms and community I was able to make actually helped tremendously. It's also easier than ever to connect with fellow Moms through Facebook or Mommy groups in your area and I've found that most Moms on those sights are looking for other Moms to hang out with and support because we are all needing a community!  So don't be afraid to ask for help! 

These were just a few major items I couldn't keep to myself and I hope they help!

p.s. Leave us a comment on what things you found that you couldn't live without! We would love to hear what other Mama's found as lifesavers!