Okay, this is one of those times when I tell you my worst fears and you reply with… Oh, wow Terah, I have the same exact thoughts and feelings too!!
So here is a list of my top 4 fears as a Mom...
Is it just me, or do fevers really make you loose all kinds of common sense? I have two girls and one on the way and although my girls have gotten fevers a few times, I still freak out when it happens. I become a google encyclopedia two hours into it. All of a sudden their symptoms went from a normal fever to fight off a virus to now they definitely have an ear infection, strep throat and whooping cough (even though they never coughed once... but I can definitely remember two weeks ago they had a little tickle in their throat, so yes it is definitely whooping cough).
The only advice I can give, is if you deal with the same thing, take a deep breath and then pass the kid off to the husband to worry about. I hate to admit it, but sometimes our husbands are a little less uptight when it comes to situations like this.
2. Having the sex talk with my kids
I am just NOT ready for that day. Not too long ago we had a close call. Our oldest came home from school and said, "Mom, I have to tell you something really naughty my friend told me today." Here I am thinking, great she's going to say she didn't like her dress, or she couldn't sit with this girl at lunch, you know typical Kindergarten drama. She went on to say, "My friend said, 'Why are you acting so SEXY?'" WHAT!?... haha, at first I laughed because I'm not even sure what that means? But then she continued to ask what sexy means... for me that was close enough of a sex talk.
3. Really, truly looking like a Mom (or even worse, your Mom)
A few months ago I did the unthinkable, I cut my long wavy hair and went for the “Lob”. At the time it was in style and everyone was doing it, but then I realized that it made me look like a true Mom. I don’t know if its just me, but part of you as a Mom, doesn’t actually want to look like you’ve gotten no sleep and you wear workout gear not because you just worked out, but because its all that fits (key word: STRETCHY)
You see I find alot of joy in telling people I have kids and then watch as they are surprised because how could I have kids and be so hip and cool? But, I’m probably the only one that feels that way, so lets just move onto the next point.
4. Pinterest dinner fail
If you've ever looked on Pinterest you would know that 90% of the time those recipes never turn out the way they are described online. When you first find a recipe it seems like it'll be so easy. You can even smell and taste your new dish just from looking at the pictures. Our family recently dabbled in the idea of going vegan. "Why?" You might ask...You guessed it, we watched that Netflix documentary. I was online looking at so many amazing recipes that sounded so good and seemed easy enough. One in particular I found only required quinoa , broccoli, nutritional yeast and vegetable broth. I figured well its easy enough, I could probably just add some spices to it. After it was all said and done, it was probably the most horrible thing I have every eaten. It even looked disgusting! The reviews came in from my husband and kids and we all agreed. It tasted like soap. Yuck!
Needless to say, we are no longer on that vegan life track and I have learned my lesson on "testing" new recipes.
As you can see there are a lot of things that can make you fearful. I mean you have normal fears when you're single, but it becomes magnified when you have kids and you soon realize the strangest of things can become something you are afraid of. Now for real, with all joking aside, fear as a mom or even a woman can be really paralyzing when you don't deal with it and you allow yourself to be overcome with those things. I am in a constant battle to keep fear at bay so that I can live my life to the fullest.
I remember dealing with the fear when we moved to California. I had know idea what normal looked like here. How was I supposed to know what was odd or off if I've never lived here. One night, I just couldn't get to sleep and honestly had a little breakdown in front of my husband. I finally had to admit what I had been trying to fight on my own. We talked through everything and for the first time I felt free from those fears. You have no idea how big of a difference that made! It's not always easy and in some situations can be hard, but the great thing is that I figured out a way to confront it instead of allowing it free reign in my life. So if there are certain fears you may be struggling with I would encourage you to confront those things and tell someone. Don't allow it to hold on to you! You are braver than you think!