The Elephant In The Room

So in order to set this blog post up correctly, I want to start at the beginning…

About 10 years ago, like many people, I had no idea what my 5 year plan or 1 year plan was for my life. I couldn’t tell you what I wanted to do with my life or what I was passionate about. During this time I had been attending Bible College in Virginia. Following my graduation I began an internship in one of the church departments which was the women’s ministry. To be completely honest with you, when I found out that was where I was being placed I was terrified! I don’t even like other women, well, I mean, all I had experienced up to this point was that the majority of encounters I had with women ended up not being very pleasant. I had seen so much cattiness and back stabbing that I didn’t want anything to do with it. Within one year of working there my entire paradigm changed. I began understanding these women I was doing life with and grew to love being in community with them. I then went on to be on staff at this church, but in a completely different ministry. Here is where I thought I had finally arrived. I have the career I want, I feel fulfilled by what I am doing. What could be better?! 

Well, I will tell you!! All that changed when we moved in California 4 years ago. I began working remotely as a personal assistant which was great because I was able to stay home with Winslow. But I knew this wasn’t something I was passionate about doing for the rest of my life. Two years later we had Kinley and I had absolutely no time to spend working from home, so I officially became a SAHM. This was great at first, but again I realized that there was something missing. I was so confused… on one hand I had the luxury to be able to stay home with my kids, but then on the other hand I still felt like, was this all my life would be? Would I just spend the rest of my life at home in yoga pants and spit up stains? I kept thinking back to when we lived in Virginia and how I felt like my career there was what I should be doing for the rest of my life, not this, not what I’m doing now. 

It wasn’t until I became pregnant with Aubrey that I came to the realization that I have to find something that I am passionate about. I can’t be spend the rest of my life reminiscing about the old days or else I will make myself go insane! Whatever I do next it can’t be a hobby and can’t be a fad or some phase of my life. It has to be something that would not only change my life but others around me. 

This wasn’t going to be ‘just another blog’, or ‘just another website’, this was going to be something that inspired and encouraged others. 

This was when Mums and Bubs Co was birthed (my 4th kid!). What began as a novel idea between my husband and I, soon became something I had a HUGE vision for. This wasn’t going to be "just another blog", or “just another website", this was going to be something that inspired and encouraged others. 

As I began thinking through all the things Mums and Bubs Co would be, I stumbled upon a picture of an elephant and her calf. For some reason I was just drawn to this picture and I wasn’t quite sure why.  It then got me thinking about about the relationships elephants have with one another. I had always remembered going to the zoo when I was younger and falling in love with these huge creatures. I started reading more about them and here is what I found!

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When a baby calf is born they stick very closely to their mothers. Which you probably already knew and could gather without me telling you, but did you know that the Mother of that calf is not the only one that influences, protects and raises that baby? When that calf is born, he is born into a community of aunts, sisters, grandmothers and friends whose number one job is to help Mom look after that baby. In fact, one resource mentioned that the survival rate of a calf greatly increases when more females are present and willinging take care of it. 

This is what Mums and Bubs is all about. We are creating a community of Moms, Aunts, Sisters, Grandmothers and Friends who are willinginglly ready and able to support one another. Could you imagine anything greater than that? 

The best feeling in the world is know that it's not all on you to raise great kids. There are women out there that who want to support you. There are women who can offer advice on what to do and what not to do. There are women, most importantly who are there to champion you on and encourage you when it's tough. 

So now that you know that this whole thing has nothing to do with me but has everything to do with YOU and the girlfriend beside you, I want to be bold and ask you to do something! Let’s support each other! I’m not asking you to promote “me”, I’m asking you to take this journey with me to reach Moms out there who may not have the support and encouragement they are needing. I know I've felt like that mom many times and what always brought me back from staying in a place of discouragement was ALWAYS the network of women I could call on. 

So how can you help?

The easiest way is to SHARE with your friends! We can all share funny videos and hilarious memes, thats all fun and games, but lets work together and get the word out about this! We are a community of women who are not only learning to have fun in the trenches of motherhood, but who are here to lift the arms of other fellow moms. I hope that this inspires you to not only join with me in the journey, but also to have a go at something for yourself!!! Let’s do this together! 

xo
Terah B.


Interview with Founder + Creator of Wash.It.Later

When you've never met face to face before and have had so many things go wrong within the first few days of connecting, you know its going to be a "special" kind of relationship. Ladies, let me introduce you to Hannah! Although I haven't met her in person (yet) I can tell you that within the first few seconds of talking we instantly bonded over all of our crazy motherhood stories. Hannah is a Mom Entrepreneur and when you find out what she has in the works you will want to tell everyone (TRUST ME!). Here's my interview with Hannah as I pick her brain on motherhood and juggling a startup.  


Terah: Tell us a little about yourself.

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Hannah: Well right now in this phase of life I am pretty much defined by motherhood which I love (and hate all at the same time).  I have 2 girls one is 3.5 and the other is 3 months. We live in Tacoma, WA so we get to enjoy all that the Pacific Northwest has to offer. Right now I am at home with the girls full time which I feel blessed to do and I don't take for granted at all. But yea, its pretty much just a lot of baby wrangling and taylor swift dancing over here. 

Terah: What does a typical day look like with kids, work and home life? 

Hannah: A typical day... hmmmm I'm not sure that exists! I mean we try to have a schedule while also trying to maintain my sanity but the honest truth is I'm not that great at the balance part of "work life balance." I often think to myself and beat myself up because I'm not great at wearing all the hats and doing it perfectly like work, keeping the kids engaged, housework, errands, being a good wife. It can be especially difficult with young kids and a brand new business. Those  things takeup so much of my time, so truthfully the housework side of things is where lately I've had to lower my standards. If you said you were coming to my house right now I would be stuffing piles of laundry into the closets and hiding the big pans I haven't touched for 2 days in the oven! So in order to make sure I'm not completely dropping the ball I give myself one house thing each day and if I get it done then its a win! I get overwhelmed when I look at all of it but if I can do one thing then thats a good day for me!

But as far as my day on a whole, I try and get up before the kids get up to get a hour of work in before I have to mom-up. During the rest of the day I have to get creative with how I block out time for work and it may be segmented but it's the best I can do. The evening time is a circus trying to get everyone fed dinner, bathed and to bed. After all that I really like to have an hour where my hubby and I can wind down together, a lot of times that involves business talk and planning but he is just as passionate about this new venture as I am so it makes for a great teammate. 

Terah: What drove you to want to start your own business?

Hannah: I think it was just that I was really excited, more than I think I even knew at the time, about this idea and really believed it would resonate with moms. I was in my living room with my sister in law watching sharktank together,  and talking about all the products and if we liked them or would buy them ourselves and it was time to put the kids to bed . While I was putting the kids to sleep I was remembering my daughters pants that I hadn't scrubbed from earlier that were still sitting tied in a grocery bag in my diaper bag. I walked back out into the living and half joking said "you know what someone needs to invent ..." and before I knew it I wasn't joking I was describing in detail exactly what I needed and how it should look and how I should market and sell them. My husband and sister in law were like, Yes! Do it! Go for it! The very next day I was researching and calling manufacturers and getting product samples to start bringing my idea to life. Now both my husband and sister in law are in this thing with me because they also see what a need there is for this. 

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Terah: Starting a business and coming up with an idea can have its challenges, is there one thing you encountered that you weren't prepared for?

Hannah: YES! Social Medial! It is it's own animal, and I had no idea how hard it would be and the dedication it takes. I mean likes and follows and posts and shares and engagements and all the while trying to remain authentic to yourself and yet still appeal to the masses. You also have to know when to post and what to post on which days, I'm still just trying to get the hang of it. And I tell you what, I have a lot of respect for those mega Instagram moms! It has been the hardest part of building my business so far because I see how valuable and what a community it can be, I just need to figure out how to get in!

Terah: When you have a tough day, what keeps you going and makes it all worth it? 

Hannah: Mostly its the idea that I know this will really help people. Not too long again I was at a difficult phase of the design process and I was running into issues and feeling really frustrated because I wanted this thing to be perfect. I wanted it to work the way I knew it could but I was just really feeling defeated.  One day I was at target trying to get my 3 year old to the potty on time and when I walked in there was one mom waiting to use the changing table and another mom who was already using it. Both womens babies had just had major blowouts and the outfits and blankets were covered, and it was like that ahhhhhaaaa moment.  I wish I had my Soak & Save bags because I knew I could help them! I knew I could give them something that would make that moment a little easier. So I keep that moment on playback to keep propelling me forward. 

Terah: What encouragement would you give to a fellow mom who is on the fence about starting her own business?

Hannah: I would say trust your gut. If you have something that you believe in and you feel you can provide value then trust that feeling. Also surround yourself with supportive people, to encourage you and challenge you too. 

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Terah: So tell us a little bit about this product!

Hannah: The bag is a single use bag that is completely liquid tight. Inside each bag is a water soluble capsule of all natural soaking solution. Once you toss in your clothes and add water to the bag, you can seal it up and create the perfect soaking environment that will lock in all the mess and start treating stains before they can set and ruin your clothes. Now you can forge ahead with the rest of your busy day until you get back home and those clothes you've had in the bag are already pretreated. You've not only saved the outfit but you've saved yourself the headache of having to scrub them out with aggressive chemicals! Also I should add that the bag, while not reusable, is RECYCLABLE!


Isn't this awesome??! I mean why hasn't anyone come up with this sooner! Whenever you hear about a genius product like this, it just makes you wish you were the one to come up with the idea because you know it's going to be that good! But in all seriousness, I not only fell in love with this product, but I am so happy I was able to connect with Hannah! As you can see from our interview, she is quite an amazing mama! So PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE check out her Kickstarter Campaign and be sure to tell all your mommy friends!!!


Your Most Important Role

When life is busy it's easy to get caught up in all the roles and responsibilities we have as Mothers. We have to manage the home and hold down the hatches because if we don't then all hell breaks loose. I'm sure you've caught a glimpse of it when you leave the kids and hubby for a few hours only to walk into a complete disaster when you return. Your husband didn't know where you stashed the PB&J so the only thing he could think of to feed the kids lunch was hot dogs and Nutella. The kids definitely know when your gone and seemed to have had plans in the making to choose specific activities Mom would not approve of. And of course, who takes the responsibility to bring order back to the house? Mom! During the day there are multiple instances where you have to put on those different hats of chef, nurse, teacher, housekeeper, accountant and referee.  I have to remind myself daily that even though I have so many roles, I can't forget my most important role which is Mom. 

Since we've had our third child it has been a whirlwind of activities. I feel like with everything thats gone on I've aged about 10 years due to lack of sleep and stress. I've worn every hat there is to wear within the last few weeks and its been exhausting. For a few days now we've also had somewhat of a difficult time with our oldest daughter. There has been so much transition and big adjustments she's had to navigate as the oldest child. Being the oldest child of four, I can relate and unfortunately when your the oldest child living with two babies, attention can be more directed at the little ones most of the time. One night in particular, Winslow was being especially emotional about every little thing, so I stopped what I was doing, sat down on the couch and tried to talk to her about why she was so upset. Once we got down to the nitty gritty of what she had been dealing with, she said the words no parent wants to hear their child say. She looked at Rory and I with a tears in her eyes and said, "You like Aubrey and Kinley more than you like me because you don't play with me." OUCH! That night I made plans to put everything to the side and just be present for her. The dishes and cleaning could wait, she needed her Mom! As I thought about that night, it made me re-evaluate what I had been doing with my other girls. I realized that I'd been so busy I hadn't gotten on the floor or snuggled Kinley in a while or took just a little more extra time to hold Aubrey close. The hard truth I was faced with was that I had been so caught up in all my other responsibilities I had been neglecting the one respsonibilty that was most important... being MOM! 

Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.
— Neil L. Anderson

Our role as Mom requires alot of us. Sometimes it can be overwhelming when you are caring for those precious little ones. You have to provide for them, teach them how to be good kids (because no one wants their kid to be "that kid") all the while trying to keep them alive! It's hard work! At the end of the day our kids could care less if the floor they walk on is spotless or the laundry is folded. What they need more than that is for us to be present and be Mom to them more than we are any other role. 

So today, I am making a choice to wear the one hat that is more important than all the other hats I wear during the day...MOM!


The Mama Gut

I know what you're thinking… why am I drawing attention to your gut… don’t I know better? Well, yes I do know better, but the kind of gut I’m talking about has nothing do with your physical appearance. I'm talking about the Mama Gut. You know, that feeling you get when you just know that something is off, you don’t know why, or maybe can’t see why, but for some reason you just know deep down something is not normal. 

Over a year ago, I had one of those Mama gut moments that forever changed my life. It started when I began having contractions getting ready to deliver my second baby. Before that day, I had studied and practiced my natural birthing techniques and really prepared myself to have a natural child birth experience. The night before Kinley was born I  began having consistent contractions and then the next morning my water broke so into the Hospital we went. When we arrived I was barely dilated. When the nurse checked me she was generous in her assumption and told me that I was 1/2 centimeter. REALLY? At this point I was still really hoping to continue with my birthing plan, but we all know things can change and unfortunately because I wasn’t “progressing” fast enough they began intervening and from there it went down hill. They poked, prodded, pumped, and checked me so many times that I felt more like a science experiment than a woman who was giving birth. There was just to much happening and too much intervention. That seemed off to me. 

A few hours later I ended up delivering Kinley and she was a healthy 6lbs baby! We were both healthy and everything was great, or so I thought. The night we left the hospital I remember looking at my feet and thinking to myself that it looked a little swollen. With this pregnancy I had not swelled up at all which was a great relief because I looked like the marshmellow man with my first child. I think I even mentioned something to my nurse, but it was immediately dismissed and didn’t seem to be anything to worry about. So that night they sent us on our way, 24 hours after delivery, which I was so excited about. I hate hospitals!

The next morning at home everything was normal until the afternoon when all of a sudden, I had started to show signs of an allergic reaction. I was red all over my body as if I had gotten a sunburn and my entire body was swollen to the point where my eyes looked like they were barely open. I was lightheaded and really fatigued and by the next morning I knew this wasnt just a reaction and I immediately went to see my OB. He took my blood and sent me home with an antibiotic thinking that I had toxic shock syndrome, but he wouldn't know for sure until my blood test came back.

We weren’t even home an hour before he called and said that I needed to go to the ER immediately. My white blood count was at 24 and normal range is 11-12. This meant I had an infection somewhere in my body. So I had to leave my 3 day old baby, and found myself being admitted into the hospital for sepsis for 3 days.

This entire ordeal was the hardest thing I have ever been through and I would never wish it on anyone. The pain you feel as a Mom not being able to feed your newborn and bond in those early hours and days is a horrible pain I will never forget. 

I'm sharing this story because looking back at my delivery and remembering that gut feeling, I wish I would’ve been brave enough to stand up for myself and say something.  Maybe its just me and my personality type, but there are times when I have had that Mama gut that something is off and I didn’t speak up or do something about it. I think partly because I don’t want to be the woman who overreacts or is labeled as someone who is ruled by her emotions. I think as Moms we can have those moments. Its not all the time, but we don't want to be the person that overreacts and then later we find out it was nothing to be worried about.

I want to encourage you, don’t ignore that Mama gut! It was given to you for a purpose!

But then there are times when we rise up and the Mama Bear comes out, and  no one can tell you how to raise your kid or what you can or can’t give them. This was a huge life lesson for me and it taught me that I have what it takes to take care of these little people God has given me responsibility over and not to question it! It taught me not to be afraid to stand up for what I truly believe is best for me and my family and not to feel pressured to conform to what other people tell me I have to do. Now it doesn't mean that this should take rule over wise and sound advice, but at the end of the day you know your family and kids better than anyone else will.

I want to encourage you, don't ignore that Mama gut! It was given to you for a purpose! When you become a Mother, you were gifted with a bond that no one else will ever have with your kids. You are the expert when it comes to your kids. Trust yourself, and know that you have what it takes!! 


My Moms Journey... Navigating the Younger Years

As a Mom, I feel like I am learning something new every day whether thats from trial and error, or from watching another Mom navigate raising kids. I have not arrived and don’t know all there is to raising kids, but I think if I can stay teachable and glean wisdom from those who have been there and done that, I think it will only help me grow as a Woman and Mom. 

With that said, I wanted to write a post that not only would encourage you as a Mom, but that would honor my own Mom. I have learned so much from my own Mother, who has raised 4 grown children. She stayed home with us when we were younger, had a traveling husband, and she started many different business ventures all while juggling kids (sometimes literally juggling us). 

I couldn't think of a better Mother's Day post than to honor and celebrate my own Mom who has been a mentor, teacher and amazing example to me as a woman. So lets dive into some questions I asked my Mom, Rose Kelleher about Motherhood. 


Terah: You have raised four kids and you've done it effortlessly in some seasons and I'm sure other times it’s been difficult. But did you ever think that you would have four kids?

Rose: Honestly I didn't. When I first had you, my firstborn, I was going to actually stop there. I really had no intention of having any more. But as the years progressed and my career was getting really good, something inside me longed for another child. Watching you grow up as the only child and you wanting a sibling, I began thinking we would have another one. And here we are three boys later. So to answer your question, no, I never thought I'd actually have four kids.

Terah: For you what was the toughest part about raising four kids?

Rose: I think the toughest part was being a military wife and mother. My husband was in the Navy and traveled for long periods of time.. It’s not easy being a military wife and having kids, so that was probably one of the toughest parts.

Terah: What did you do to help get you through those moments?

Rose: Well, you know, a lot of it was building a really good support network of other moms. My next door neighbor was also a stay at home mom and she introduced me to several other stay at home moms. Just being with other moms who are going through the same issues that you're going through and being able to help each other was the biggest thing that helped get me through some of those tough moments. We helped each other by watching one another's kids or if somebody had to run out to to the grocery store, a mom would offer to watch them. To me, that was probably the saving grace in my life when my husband was out of town. Just having a really good support group there was so worth it.

Terah: You've been a working mom, working full time and I think you even worked part time and worked from home. You've done a lot of stuff in the time that we were kids. So being a working mom, did you ever find that balancing family, house and kids was difficult for you?

Rose: Yes it was difficult. When my husband was home he was very supportive and that's a something I am grateful for, having an awesome and supportive spouse. He was supportive of every endeavor I went after.

I think throughout the years, doing different things while I stayed at home, was a way to help out not only with family finances, but it allowed us to be able to do things as a family and it allowed me to do something I was passionate about. Being an entrepreneur allowed me to really take advantage of some great opportunities all while being able to stay at home. But yeah it's not easy. By no means was it easy to balance it all. But going back again, having a really good support system behind you really helps.

Terah: I think thats so important to remember as a Mom. I'm a stay at home mom myself now and knowing what my passions and hobbies really do make staying home and working so fulfilling.  I think it's so important as well, like you said, to create a support system for yourself where you are doing life with other women in the same season as you are.

Now moving on, do you remember one piece of advice that a fellow mom gave you that really helped you navigate motherhood a little bit better. And what was that advice?

Rose: I think the best advice that was ever given to me was to ENJOY YOUR CHILDREN because they are only little once. And so, I made it a point when I decided to stay home that I wanted to enjoy every second, every minute of the day with my kids because I knew I would never get that back.

Terah: Were there ways in which you did that?

Rose: A lot of it was just cherishing every stage of their lives from the time they were babies and then grew up to the terrible twos and then on to the terrible threes. Everybody calls it terrible but those times were fun times because looking back you realize that those were the years where your child starts growing out of the baby stage.They're inquisitive, they're exploring, they're trying to see what boundaries they can cross and it's all part of learning. But it was fun and I tried hard to make it fun and do things outside. I took you guys to the park a lot and just encouraged as much exploring as possible.

Terah: Now that you have four, grown, adult children, what was one thing or a few things maybe that you were really glad that you did?

Rose: I think the thing I'm so happy that I did is the fact that I opened my life up to having more kids.

You know I tell people NEVER SAY NEVER because you just never know whats going to happen down the road that could change your mind and change your whole outlook on things. For me, faith was very important to me and so when I knew that my purpose wasn't just to have one child and we started having the second child and then the third child and then the fourth child I never regretted any of that. I loved every moment of it. I'm so blessed that I was fortunate to be able to stay home through your early years.


I don't know about you but it is always encouraging to hear the  stories of others and to see they are still standing on the other side! I think the greatest take away's for me from my conversation with my Mom was...

1. Find a support system of others Mom's who are in the same season of life as you are.
2. Be open to anything- You never know what blessings lie for you down the road. 
3. Enjoy every season!! 

I hope in whatever season of Motherhood you are in this encourages you to keep going, I know this has encouraged me! 


Creating Quality Family Time

As a parent there are so many things pulling at you're attention. Your job, family, finances, school and the other millions of things that decide to pop up. Sometimes life can get so busy that unfortunately our families can get the short end of the stick.  Let's be honest, when your busy and don't have anything left to pour out at the end of the day it can be easier to hand your kids a snack and an iPad and call it a day. When you are not in the mood to make My Little Ponies talk, the iPad can seem like the best choice for everyone's sanity. Unfortunately, for me my conscience got the better of me one day when I realized just how much my five year old daughter was playing games and watching TV shows. I started to realize that it was not only unhealthy for her, but that it was actually affecting her attitude and in turn my attitude. We both became easily frustrated with one another and it did not make for very enjoyable evenings. 

Once I realized that we had gotten to a place where she spent more time with Youtube Kids than with me,  I immediately enforced a NO SCREEN TIME rule after dinner. At first this was difficult and somedays it still is especially when Dad is traveling and I'm busy trying to clean, bathe and stick to the bedtime routine (all hail the bedtime routine). 

“There will never be a right time you have to MAKE TIME.”

In the beginning when I started this "no screen time rule" the end in mind was really just to limit how much screen time Winslow was having. Not long after though, I realized something even bigger than that. I realized that this "rule" was bringing our family closer together. We were playing, talking and bonding more than ever. I now value this time more than anything in the world! You can never replace TRUE quality time especially when your in a busy season. And just an extra tidbit (if you will) if you want to create more moments of quality time, you have to start NOW. Don't wait until circumstances calm down or wait around for the "right" time. There will never be a right time you have to MAKE TIME.

Maybe your family doesn't have time to do family dinners every night together, think and brainstorm what you can do. We found what worked for us and sometimes due to schedules we aren't able to consistently spend time in the evenings. But, we have realized that for our family and for our girls we have to make room to be a family not just roommates. 


Stop and refresh yourself

I’m sure you’ve never been so busy that you forgot to feed yourself a meal or two, I mean, who does that? Apparently, all of us Moms. We’ve all been to the point of serving everyone else that we are almost always the last ones to sit down, rest and enjoy a nice warm meal. Instead, we end up eating left over sandwich crust and puffs and then moving on to the next thing that requires our absolute, undivided attention. 

“My hardest struggle as a Mom has been to create time for myself and to do things that refresh me.”

I have been caught in the trap of neglecting myself and the health of my spirit many times as a Mom. I can tell when I’m starting to get to the edge because everything will begin to frustrate me, from the kids being too loud and messy to my husband not picking up his clothes (which is a battle I will never win). My hardest struggle as a Mom has been to create time for myself and to do things that refresh me. I realize that when I refresh and feed my soul, I am a happier and more enjoyable person to be around. When I don’t, no one is happy! 

“We have much more influence in our family than I think we credit ourselves with. ”

After I had my second baby I can remember feeling anxiety leaving the house to go and do something for myself. I felt like I could barely make it through the day on my own with two kids now, how in the world would my husband or babysitter be able to do it without me? When I finally did end up leaving the house 30 minutes later than planned, I over scheduled and over prepared to the point of creating more stress for myself. 

We forget, or maybe don’t even realize the atmosphere we set in our own households especially when we are stressed. We have much more influence in our family than I think we credit ourselves with. This is why its so important that we ourselves are being refreshed. Its not easy to leave the kids for a whole day, but sometimes you just have to do it. 

What makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing? Write those things down, schedule time in your calendar for “Mommy time”. I know it can be hard in some seasons. I think there was even a point in my own life when someone asked me what my hobbies were and what I enjoyed doing. I honestly couldn't answer that question because I had put myself at the bottom of the "to do list". So even if you have a hard time getting away or your in a season where you feel like there's no time you could possibly make time to refresh yourself. Just remind yourself that you have a family that depends on you. They need you whole and healthy not burning the candle at both ends. 


Keep Dreaming Mama

Have you ever felt like as a Mom, you might be a Mom forever. Obviously, you will be, but I’m talking more in the terms of… You will pick up food from the floor, wipe poopie bottoms, always be sticky with who knows what for THE.REST.OF.YOUR.ADULT.LIFE! Not too long ago I was in this exact spot. I was in a place where I felt like I was stuck in a hamster wheel of the same routine over and over again and there was no end in sight. 

“She not only was able to raise 4 kids, but also seemed to have a life outside of just being a Mom. And she was THRIVING!!! ”

I remember getting to such an unhappy place because I felt like I had to settle for “just being Mom”. But, then I thought about my own Mom. My Mom raised four kids part of that time as a stay at home mom, and the other part as a working Mom, all the while with a husband gone periodically serving in the military. I remember once my brothers and I got older she began to really pursue a career for herself and things that she was gifted at. She not only was able to raise four kids, but also seemed to have a life outside of just being a Mom. And she was THRIVING!!! 

“But I think if we can remind ourselves on the tough days that we still have alot of life to live, theres still dreams and passions that we can pursue and that, well, this season isn’t going to last forever; I think our life will be alot more enjoyable. ”

Sometimes as a Mom you can feel like you're stuck being in this season forever. We forget that there's going to be more years spent not picking up after little ones. I always hear women who have grown children say that it all goes by so fast, so enjoy it while you're in it. Easier said than done somedays. But I think if we can remind ourselves on the tough days that we still have alot of life to live, there's still dreams and passions that we can pursue and that, well, this season isn’t going to last forever; I think our life will be a lot more enjoyable.