The Elephant In The Room

So in order to set this blog post up correctly, I want to start at the beginning…

About 10 years ago, like many people, I had no idea what my 5 year plan or 1 year plan was for my life. I couldn’t tell you what I wanted to do with my life or what I was passionate about. During this time I had been attending Bible College in Virginia. Following my graduation I began an internship in one of the church departments which was the women’s ministry. To be completely honest with you, when I found out that was where I was being placed I was terrified! I don’t even like other women, well, I mean, all I had experienced up to this point was that the majority of encounters I had with women ended up not being very pleasant. I had seen so much cattiness and back stabbing that I didn’t want anything to do with it. Within one year of working there my entire paradigm changed. I began understanding these women I was doing life with and grew to love being in community with them. I then went on to be on staff at this church, but in a completely different ministry. Here is where I thought I had finally arrived. I have the career I want, I feel fulfilled by what I am doing. What could be better?! 

Well, I will tell you!! All that changed when we moved in California 4 years ago. I began working remotely as a personal assistant which was great because I was able to stay home with Winslow. But I knew this wasn’t something I was passionate about doing for the rest of my life. Two years later we had Kinley and I had absolutely no time to spend working from home, so I officially became a SAHM. This was great at first, but again I realized that there was something missing. I was so confused… on one hand I had the luxury to be able to stay home with my kids, but then on the other hand I still felt like, was this all my life would be? Would I just spend the rest of my life at home in yoga pants and spit up stains? I kept thinking back to when we lived in Virginia and how I felt like my career there was what I should be doing for the rest of my life, not this, not what I’m doing now. 

It wasn’t until I became pregnant with Aubrey that I came to the realization that I have to find something that I am passionate about. I can’t be spend the rest of my life reminiscing about the old days or else I will make myself go insane! Whatever I do next it can’t be a hobby and can’t be a fad or some phase of my life. It has to be something that would not only change my life but others around me. 

This wasn’t going to be ‘just another blog’, or ‘just another website’, this was going to be something that inspired and encouraged others. 

This was when Mums and Bubs Co was birthed (my 4th kid!). What began as a novel idea between my husband and I, soon became something I had a HUGE vision for. This wasn’t going to be "just another blog", or “just another website", this was going to be something that inspired and encouraged others. 

As I began thinking through all the things Mums and Bubs Co would be, I stumbled upon a picture of an elephant and her calf. For some reason I was just drawn to this picture and I wasn’t quite sure why.  It then got me thinking about about the relationships elephants have with one another. I had always remembered going to the zoo when I was younger and falling in love with these huge creatures. I started reading more about them and here is what I found!


When a baby calf is born they stick very closely to their mothers. Which you probably already knew and could gather without me telling you, but did you know that the Mother of that calf is not the only one that influences, protects and raises that baby? When that calf is born, he is born into a community of aunts, sisters, grandmothers and friends whose number one job is to help Mom look after that baby. In fact, one resource mentioned that the survival rate of a calf greatly increases when more females are present and willinging take care of it. 

This is what Mums and Bubs is all about. We are creating a community of Moms, Aunts, Sisters, Grandmothers and Friends who are willinginglly ready and able to support one another. Could you imagine anything greater than that? 

The best feeling in the world is know that it's not all on you to raise great kids. There are women out there that who want to support you. There are women who can offer advice on what to do and what not to do. There are women, most importantly who are there to champion you on and encourage you when it's tough. 

So now that you know that this whole thing has nothing to do with me but has everything to do with YOU and the girlfriend beside you, I want to be bold and ask you to do something! Let’s support each other! I’m not asking you to promote “me”, I’m asking you to take this journey with me to reach Moms out there who may not have the support and encouragement they are needing. I know I've felt like that mom many times and what always brought me back from staying in a place of discouragement was ALWAYS the network of women I could call on. 

So how can you help?

The easiest way is to SHARE with your friends! We can all share funny videos and hilarious memes, thats all fun and games, but lets work together and get the word out about this! We are a community of women who are not only learning to have fun in the trenches of motherhood, but who are here to lift the arms of other fellow moms. I hope that this inspires you to not only join with me in the journey, but also to have a go at something for yourself!!! Let’s do this together! 

Terah B.